Lies About Sex and Porn: The Problem

The church has been behind on this whole sex and porn issue. Some ignore it while others give it more attention than it deserves. All of sides tend to make some common mistakes though. One of the biggest mistakes is how most often improperly define the problem. Sex is the problem. Porn is the problem. Lust is the problem. Provocative dress attire is the problem. Aren’t these all really just symptoms though?

Sex can’t be the problem, because God made sex. Sex in the context of marriage rocks. It’s beastly amazing. I can see why some would say porn is the problem, but what drives someone to view pornography? What do they feel they are not receiving in the world that makes them feel the need to see images that don’t belong in their head? Lust isn’t quite the problem either. No doubt it is a problem, but we have placed such a huge fear on lust that we have inadvertently put a fear on sex itself. That can’t be good. Provocative behavior can’t be the problem either. Why does a girl dress the way she does? Women aren’t really the enemy. Some people out there need to grasp the fact that women are not the problem. Women are not responsible for the thoughts of men. Is it nice when they dress modestly to help us out? Obviously, but the way a girl dresses cannot be an excuse for our minds to wander off where they do not belong.

We act as though sex is one of the key problems in our world today. We almost act as though anything sexual is the root of all sin. Our obsession over it either by condemning it , or making discussion on it taboo escalates it to a huge status. Ironically I think this is exactly what the enemy wants. An illness is at its most dangerous when it is misdiagnosed. We treat the topic of sexual immorality as a cause when it is really a symptom.

Why is this such a problem? Our treatment for it is ineffective. Have a problem with porn? Don’t own a computer or at least have unbeatable software. Sure that can be a benefit to get out of the situation, but we never teach people to move beyond the simple issue of access and deal with the heart issue. A removal of access to porn will not fix the real problem. We have gotten really good at coming up with useful tips and habits to keep us out of trouble, but we have failed to help people meet the fight head-on. We have failed to help people be equipped for the battle of the mind.

Much of this steams form the idea of fleeing sexual immorality. Paul tells us that is how we are supposed to deal with sexual sin so that is what we must always do. Have a problem with sexual immorality? Just run away from the temptation. Just ignore it. Don’t deal with it just get away from it until it comes around next time so you can just get away form it again. How do you flee sexual immorality in the mind?

The problem with sexual immorality is it points out an emptiness in us. We try and fill it up with sin. We use porn to fill up feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. We let our mind wander because frankly we just have an idle mind to often. We fall into sex outside of marriage because we want to feel loved and valued. We want to feel that intimacy and closeness with someone. The problem with sex and porn is emptiness. The problem with much of the church helping is they have failed to see the emptiness and the need for it to be filled.

When Christ was tempted with a physical desire by Satan he spoke on having reliance and dependence on God. We need fulfillment from God to beat these symptoms. It is not enough to just remove the opportunities to fall into the sin. All that does is still leave us empty. What we need is fulfillment. Christ can be that fulfillment.

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